This is part 2 in a series on kids and the role of mobile, digital and social media in their lives
Children in the U.S. get their first mobile device as early as age 8. These “digital natives,” or the iGeneration, use their mobile devices for many activities, including accessing their social media. So it’s important to understand those apps, which we detailed in our first blog post in this Kids and Mobile Devices series. But kids also use their phones to watch videos, access schoolwork and communicate with teachers and classmates, and to text or messaging one another and their parents.
Videos and Live Streaming – What Are They Watching?
YouTube remains the leading online video platform, and by a significant margin. It’s almost certain your kids are watching YouTube videos. Nearly all (95%) of the iGeneration uses YouTube and nearly half say they can’t live without it. They use YouTube to get news, a good laugh, shopping recommendations, and tutorials/how-to information.
YouTube Kids is an app specifically designed for younger children. The service says they make it easier for children and parents to find curated, family-friendly videos, channels, and educational clips.
Adolescents are watching a mix of videos on YouTube. Besides their favorite social stars, they’re likely gaming, picking up old movies that are unavailable on Netflix, watching TV shows from other countries, and generally searching for entertainment that is funny and informative. However, they can still access content that is inappropriate, which includes bad language, violence, and sexually explicit videos.
Talk to your kids about what they’re watching and devise a plan together about what is appropriate. Further, if your kids are young, make sure they are in earshot and eyesight when using apps like YouTube. It’s easy to accidentally click on inappropriate content without meaning to do so.
School Apps – Managing Your Kids’ Learning
Many children use a school-supported online Learning Management System (LMS). The LMS powers eLearning, delivering education courses or supplements online, while also helping both teachers and students to organize courses. Most systems have a communication component (so that teachers and students can talk digitally), and some also have a social component, which creates another social network for your kids. These systems help students to turn in assignments, communicate with their teachers, access grades in real time, and connect with one another on projects. LMS helps teachers to organize and share their course work and grades.
Parents can work with their kids on accessing and using these apps if they are an important element to their schooling. It’s also helpful for them to be aware that this is an additional way their kids will be connected digitally to a social community.
For younger kids, apps like Class Dojo help parents keep track of their student’s behavior, see photos from teachers, and get messages and updates about what’s going on in the classroom.
Text Messages, WhatsApp and Other Message Services – The Awkwardness Buffer
If your kids have a mobile device or smartphone, they are likely sending messages, whether through SMS, a messenger app, like WhatsApp or Messenger, or via their social media networks like Instagram, reports Buzzoid – the leading authority on all things Instagram.
Nielsen Mobile reports that the average cell phone customer sent and received about 1.5 texts for every call, while subscribers under age 12 exchanged 3 texts per call. Teens 13-17 were seven times more likely to text. This leaves many parents suspicious of what their children, teenagers or not, are sending so eagerly. Many parents choose to in fact spy on their children’s messages (you can click here to learn more). Now whether you agree with this or not, it is possible via apps like iSpy.
Between the ages of 8 and 13, kids develop key relationship and communication skills. They want to spend as much time with their peers as possible. Messaging apps let them do that. Messages allow them to connect with their social group while not being face-to-face, which creates a type of “awkwardness buffer” between them. Texting and messaging can be seen as the opportunity for kids to extend their time with friends and connect with them more often and easily. Short messages can relieve kids of the anxiety of in-person interactions-it’s easier to tell someone you “like” them without the fear of in-person rejection.
WhatsApp – Messages for Free
WhatsApp has become the most popular instant messaging app, connecting more than a billion people worldwide. Users can share instant messages and multimedia files for free and can talk for free unlimited. The app works on nearly all smartphone models and is also available for computers, and works on Wi-Fi, 3G, and 4G networks.
WhatsApp doesn’t replace other platforms used by kids, but complements them. Kids turn to WhatsApp to communicate and to share photos and videos in smaller, more selective groups than platforms like Instagram, YouTube and Facebook allow.
What Are They Talking About?
It’s natural for parents to wonder, “What are my kids talking about over messages?”
Text messaging is an important tool that parents have for staying in touch with their kids. And often, children would rather be contacted via text than by phone call. So, kids are talking to their parents about pick-up times, soccer practice and anything else under the sun that they need to communicate.
And they’re talking to each other. Likely about school, sports, activities and one another.
But the big concern for parents is if they’re doing something inappropriate or dangerous. The answer is likely yes. A New York Times article reports that sexting has become a normal part of teen sexual behavior and development. Rather than be shocked about this, parents should start talking to their children at an early age about what they’re sending and receiving via messages. It can be part of general safety messages for younger kids, and as they get older, conversations can be more direct about what teenagers are experiencing.
Common Sense media even offers this guide for kids about sexting scenarios. It could be a great way for parents to start a conversation with their kids about being safe in the digital age.
Digital Knowledge is Power
When everything is tied together, your digital natives are connected to their devices in a variety of ways for several reasons. The more you understand the apps and services they are accessing, the more you are able to communicate with them about what they’re doing.
In the next post of this Kids and Mobile Devices series, we’ll give you three ways you can get in the driver’s seat when it comes to your children’s digital activity. There will be pointers on how to start the conversation and continue it with your children, develop a tech contract, and have consequences for when your kids misuse their devices.